Mindfulness is a simple but not easy practice of nonjudgmental awareness of here-and-now experiences. Too often, as days run into years, partners mindlessly repeat patterns, losing sight of their interactions. But you can reinvigorate your relationship by choosing to be more mindful of the comfort and joy it brings to your life. Leslie Becker-Phelps, author of WebMD’s Relationships blog, offers some guidance.
- Rather than just focusing on getting out the door in the morning, consciously take a moment to stop and look at your partner. Acknowledge to yourself that this person is important to you. You can do all of this in a matter of seconds, and it will imbue your good-bye hug or kiss with real affection.
- Any time you show each other physical affection, pay attention to it rather than allowing your thoughts to wander. By choosing to be aware of touch, even a peck on the check can feel like a moment of connection.
- Listen without multitasking, and pay attention with caring and openness. At these moments, you are deeply appreciating your partner and honoring the connection between you.
The more you do this, the closer you are likely to feel toward each other.
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